Getting A Kick Start On Your New Year’s Resolutions In 2020
New Year’s Resolutions Are Goals For The Whole Year!
If you’ve ever read any of my posts on Beautifully Fragile, you’ll know how much I love goal-setting. For me, I make my life happier and I feel more fulfilled by deciding on things I want and then going out to achieve them. I genuinely feel that it’s an amazing way to build your dream life. A new year is the perfect opportunity to create goals. Creating new year’s resolutions is the ultimate goal-setting activity!
According to Wikipedia, the process of creating new year’s resolutions comes from various religious origins. One of my favourites is that in the medieval era, the knights took the “peacock vow” at the end of the Christmas season each year to re-affirm their commitment to chivalry. What a lovely vow to make to be more selfless and caring to those around you!
In the modern world, we often create new year’s resolutions around being a better version of ourselves overall. It’s become a tradition to choose some things that we want to improve in the new year and get a burst of motivation in January to achieve them! This often tapers off and we return to our habitual way of doing things.
In today’s post, I want to share with you some of my tips and ideas on how to get a kick start on new year’s resolutions, and how to maintain them continually. I hope you find it useful, and I’d love to hear from you in the comments below about what your new year’s resolutions are for 2020!
1. Pick New Year’s Resolutions That Genuinely Resonate With You
It can be tempting to choose similar resolutions to others around you or follow typical ones such as losing weight or drinking less alcohol. I don’t think this is a good idea. It doesn’t give you the real motivation and drive needed to achieve something because it’s not your true goal in life.
Instead, think about the kind of life you want to lead. What is important to you? Do you have interests that you want to explore further? Is there something you have always wanted to try?
Focusing on yourself and the things you want to do will mean you’re much more likely to achieve them, and you’re also going to be happier when you do!
When we try to take on other people’s expectations or ideas of what improvement looks like, then we can struggle to feel good about it. Even when these things are positive! Because they’re not resonating with what is truly important to us.
Learning how to be your true self and worry about what you want and need in life is a great skill to try and implement. At the end of the day, you are only ever left with yourself. People will come and go around you, and you may have people that stay with you your whole life of course. However you cannot rely on them, you must rely on yourself. Support, kindness and companionship are amazing things in life, and I am not trying to take away from that. But you must have the independence and the foresight that you need to focus on your own life and well-being ahead of all others, to even begin to be there for other people.
Choose a list of things that make you feel excited and impassioned when you read it. Focus on yourself and your dreams and desires in life and mould your resolutions around following those dreams.
2. Don’t Go Overboard When Deciding How Many Resolutions To Have
As tempting as it might be to write a long list of 100 things you want to do in 2020, it is easier to narrow this down to around 10 things at most you want to achieve.
By narrowing your sight and picking a handful of goals, you are more able to focus and concentrate on each thing.
Resolutions usually revolve around creating new habits, and this takes time. There is debate around how long this takes, but most suggest between 20 to 60 days to solidify a new habit. By narrowing your choices and picking a smaller amount of goals, you will be able to spend the time necessary setting up your new habits.
For example, if you decide one of your resolutions is going to be to read a new book each month, then you’ll need to set up a new habit to make sure you achieve this. You might commit to reading 10 pages a night, and so you will have to make time for it. Making sure you do the action of reading each night will become a habit over time.
Overwhelming yourself with a hundred new activities and habits to create will more than likely cause you to give up altogether and go back to the life you had before. Those habits are already ingrained and you may feel it’s easier to just stay as you were.
By definition, a habit means that you do things without having to put in the effort; they become routine. It takes the brain much less energy to complete the activity each time. Habits make new goals and commitments easier to do, and they become part of your routine and lifestyle, rather than a short-lived burst of activity that eventually tapers off.
Narrow it down, commit to set up new habits, and then work on ingraining those habits so that it becomes easier to do the new activity long-term. Make a new routine, and thus a new lifestyle.
3. Simply Get Started!
The hardest thing sometimes is simply just getting started.
Take the first step and you’ll be proud of yourself. You’ll get a boost of motivation. This pride makes you want to do the activity again!
If you’re struggling to take the first step, be it due to fear of embarrassing yourself or failing or something else, then break it down. Choose an easy step to take first. Make it something that is completely achievable and opens the door.
You need to be kind and compassionate with yourself and realise that this is a journey. You are committing to yourself and you want this new habit to better your life. Encourage yourself!
You will have chosen your new year’s resolution right at the start of the year, so it’s the perfect opportunity to start new things.
Making a small step in the right direction is much more vitally important than simply doing nothing at all. We are all scared, we all have fear, doubt, worry and stress, but it’s how you face it that matters. Don’t let those feelings beat you. Simply know that you will be alright no matter what happens and take that first step.
Breaking down your task into smaller, easier to-do steps means you’re much more likely to get started. Getting started is the key to creating a new habit and must be done before you can achieve anything. Keep kindness and compassion in your mind and treat yourself with care. Talk to yourself like you would your friend and be gentle.
4. Remember: There Is No Such Thing As Failure
So often do we focus on achievement and is we miss a step or we struggle one day then we see it as a failure. For me, failure is like a final thing and we don’t pick it up again after that.
Learning that failure doesn’t exist is probably one of the most liberating ideas I’ve ever come across.
If instead of seeing something as a failure we see it as a lesson, then we can truly be on a path of self-development and personal growth. Success comes from learning to see the lessons in things that go wrong, and simply continuing anyway. Whether it’s a case of lack of energy or motivation, a slip-up in determination, or just that we get something wrong – all of these things have something to teach us.
Maybe we need to find a way to motivate ourself through things. We need to listen to music, journal about why we are doing something, or speak to others who are doing that thing too. Or we need to realise that accidents happen and that we don’t need to beat ourselves up over it and simply keep trying. Even when we do something wrong – we can learn the lesson of what we did wrong, and try something different next time!
New year’s resolutions are no different to any other goal or aim we have in life, and most likely intertwine with them completely.
For whatever reason, our society has become focused on failure and seeing it as a dead end.
“I’ve failed and so I can no longer continue with this.”
We must turn this around and see this as a challenge instead. It’s the path to success. Listening to the world and what it has to teach us is how we become successful. This is how we achieve great things. If we choose to keep going, we will be able to reach our goal in the end. By persevering when things get tough we pick up amazing lessons of resilience and personal strength.
Realising that there is no such thing as failure and instead, seeing everything as a lesson is the key to being successful. Using the information to our advantage and pushing past the barriers is how we achieve our goals in the end.
In the end, creating new years resolutions is a great way to boost your motivation and push towards your overall life goals. I love the idea of starting a new year with a set of ideas for what I want to achieve over the year. It gives me purpose and fulfilment, and chasing after them is the best part!
I hope you’ve been motivated by this post and found some useful advice to push you forward with your own goals.