How To Push Through Your Low Mood + Build A Resilient Mindset
We ALL Feel Low Sometimes
No matter who you are, what kind of life you lead or how much money you have in the bank – no-one is immune from feeling low sometimes. It’s human nature! Some days you might wake up and feel crappy. You might not even be able to explain why.
I know that feeling well. There are certain days when you just feel like everyone is against you, or you can’t do anything right. It really sucks! You might feel upset and cry, or feel angry and moody. You might just feel like you need to be alone.
On those days, you might turn the online world for some support and help. You might remember this blog and the support I want to be able to give you via this platform. I genuinely hope that’s the reason you’re here today.
It can feel like a nightmare being trapped inside your own head sometimes. Having an understanding from someone else can be amazing, and can make the world of difference. But sometimes you need some actionable things you can do to feel better.
In today’s post, I wanted to share some tips for you to be able to use when you’re feeling low that will help you move towards a happier emotional state, and build a stronger, more resilient mindset. It’s about getting your mood back up + feeling that motivation and joy again.
It’s all about practice, perspective + passion.
Sit In Your Emotions + Figure Out What You’re Actually Feeling and Why
We get overwhelmed with emotion sometimes and lose sight of what’s really going on. We’re all guilty of this, me just as much as anyone.
The stories we tell ourselves about who we are, what other people are like, how we should feel and what we should do are extremely powerful. They are the words and feelings we put together from everything we learn as we go through life. And they impact how we behave every day.
If you go through a situation as a child where you get scared by a big dalmatian dog running up to you and jumping up at you, then you might grow up fearing those animals. You tell yourself they’re scary and you need to be on alert when they’re around. That’s a coping mechanism your brain has created to protect you. It’s the story you put in place.
Sometimes we get skewed with the lessons we learn. We might make assumptions or feel negatively about all types of situations based on the lessons we’ve learnt. This is incredibly complex, of course. This is a huge part of CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) and if you are really struggling with negative thought patterns, it might be worth speaking to your GP or a qualified therapist who can go through this with you.
In my experience, living with anxiety and stress for the past 20 years, I have learnt that sometimes I get lost down a rabbit hole of my emotions, and I struggle to think rationally. I’ve learnt to slow down and actually think about the thoughts ruminating through my mind and dissect them!
I ask myself these questions:
- What has caused me to think about these things?
- Is there something that I’m not seeing that’s upsetting, worrying or making me angry?
- What emotion am I actually feeling? Is it jealousy? Stress? Worry? Anger?
- Is there something going on in my life that’s making me feel a certain way?
By taking a real look at what you are feeling and dissecting the reason why, you can begin to find some comfort and some relief. By understanding more about what is going through your mind in the background, you can figure out how to deal with it. Which leads me to the next action:
Decide Whether You Can DO ANYTHING To Move Foward
So the next action you can take so that you know what you’re feeling and why, is by asking the question – can I DO ANYTHING about this?
Is there anything that you can physically do to feel better, solve an issue and move forward with your life?
By checking in and being realistic about whether you can do anything about your mood and the reason for it, you’ll actually end up with one of two answers.
- You can do something about it!
This is great because you can take some action! Maybe you’re stressing about an upcoming presentation at work. If that’s the case, then you know you can prepare as much as possible, get everything ready ahead of time, and reduce your stress/anxiety by practising, running your presentation by your friends/family, taking notes and learning more online about delivering a killer presentation.
Learning to take responsibility and make the necessary moves in your life will be insanely liberating. It’s no good waiting for someone or something else to come along and fix things for you.
You need to get off your butt and make it happen!
Because at the end of the day, if there are still actions you can take to make things better then you need to do them. You might need to push yourself, you might need to fight that feeling inside of you telling you that it’s not worth it.
But I promise you, IT IS.
Everything you want is on the other side of hanging up the procrastination pants and just doing it. Just pushing through, and being determined to be strong.
Some days I hate it, and I grumble to myself, to begin with!
And then I just start focusing hard on my DREAM LIFE. On the dream Laura that I want to become. I imagine all of the things in life being all mine and the desire for this overwhelms my desire to be low and sad.
Standing on your own two feet + relying on YOU to make things happen is amazing. It gives you the realisation that you have the power. Life is what you make of it, and you can choose what you give your energy to.
2. You can’t do anything about it!
If you genuinely can’t do anything about your mood and you’ve looked at the reasons why and there’s literally nothing you can do, then you need to focus on letting go. You need to do other things to take your mind away from the negative, build some positive feelings, and get your vibe back, stat!
Mostly, there’s still something we can do to make ourselves feel better whilst other things in life align and resolve themselves. You can’t force them, so all you can do is focus on yourself for a bit, and give yourself the attention you need.
I’m going to share with you some of my favourite ways to push through low mood + feel better starting right now. These are simple things you can do to build a more positive outlook.
PRACTICE, PERSPECTIVE + PASSION
On days where I’m feeling particularly low and there’s nothing I can do to change things, then I focus on the 3 P’s of positive mindset: Practice, Perspective + Passion.
I practice dealing with things in a gracious and compassionate way, treating myself like I would my partner or best friend. You might put pressure on yourself to deal with things perfectly every time, but that’s not always going to happen. Perfect doesn’t exist! All you can do is practice doing your best.
Learning some self-care has really helped with this too. Whatever works for you, whether it’s taking a long, relaxing bath or going for a walk somewhere lovely.
Practising looking after yourself and doing things to make yourself feel good is an important thing to learn. Prioritise yourself and your well-being. Take some time away and spend time by yourself. Sometimes just taking some time and having some space can do you the world of good.
Self-improvement is a continuous process that will continue for the rest of your life. Building your resilience is like a muscle that you need to keep working on to keep it strong. I recommend reading some books on mental health and mindset for success; Amazon and the Kindle app, of course, has many amazing options to try.
Secondly, I try to keep a sensible perspective.
Like we mentioned previously, figuring out exactly how you’re feeling and being rational about your emotions is important.
Focus on what you can control in life and let go of the rest. Concentrate on the actions you can take to feel better and build a positive outlook. We can only change the way we react to things, there’s nothing you can do to force other people to behave or feel a certain way.
Keep that perspective and remember that you have the power to create your own reality.
Nothing is out of your reach, and you can change things to make your life more like what you dream about. Take small steps towards it. Remember the joy of the journey, and the lessons in the everyday. If you didn’t have these moments, you wouldn’t know the success.
Another thing to remember is that everything is temporary and the bad times will subside. It might be rough right now and you might feel a bit overwhelmed, but things will swing back the other way one day soon.
Finally, when I’m feeling low I like to focus on the things I’m passionate about.
Getting a mood boost from the things I love and that usually fill me with excitement can be extremely useful!
Writing and creating content for Beautifully Fragile is one thing I love to do, and so I’ll spend some time drafting new blog posts, taking photos, reading books about business and marketing, or watching YouTube videos.
Learn what makes you excited and then spend time exploring it or working on it!
Pouring yourself into your hobbies and interests when you’re feeling low can be a real lifesaver and make you see the purpose and meaning in your life.
I hope you’ve found some value from today’s post, and that I can be a help if you’re struggling with low mood.
If you need anything, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. If you need further help or you’re worried about how you feel, please speak to your doctor. There’s nothing to be afraid of, the doctors know what to say and will help you explore options to help you feel better.